There are more singles in America than ever before. The 2017 U.S. Census reports there are over 110 million unmarried people over the age of 18.
Author Dr. Elyakim Kislev recently published the book, Happy Singlehood: The Rising Acceptance and Celebration of Solo Living, hoping people will start embracing the single life.
Dr. Kislev wants people to know single doesn’t necessarily have to be a bad thing. Kislev says more people aren’t only going single in the US, but all around the world.
Professor Kislev interviewed over 140 people in the U.S. and Europe. He researched hundreds of blog posts, newspaper and magazine articles, and social media comments.
Not only that he analyzed data of hundreds of thousands of people from more than 30 countries. All of his data concluded that single people are more highly educated than married people and more sociable, contrary to much of the discrimination they receive.
Dr. Elyakim Kislev says, “People think of them as weird, as awkward–maybe out of context and misplaced. They don’t know if they should invite them for dinner or social events or family events so really just how to deal with all of this pressure.”
Kislev told me his book focuses more on the singles over 30 because they are dealing with more social pressure than the younger generations right now. But he says he’s already working on his next book that is dedicated to the single millennial generation.
Dr. Kislev told me some of the benefits of being single.
Single people are more social. They have more interactions with their friends and family.
And the eating habits of single people are healthier.
He also found that singles values are paying off for them. Single people want to be able to make their own decisions and they focus on meeting goals. Single people get more happiness out of their satisfaction with their jobs.
However, I had to ask, what do you say to people in a relationship that have the complete opposite opinion?
“Think about the possibilities that not everyone fits what someone assumes as what is the best way to live their life. There are many options and we need to accept the whole spectrum–the whole scale.”
Dr. Kislev is not trying to discriminate against people for being in a relationship but hopes his findings can allow people to look at being single in a different way.